Yes, they are. They can only tell what you haven’t done right but not what you have given, what you have succeeded. This is something my husband does a lot. He won’t recognize all my daily achievements but if something is not done, well, that will be our night conversation. And I’m not hoping on this ever changing.
And just when I thought that this was something only my husband could do, one of my bosses shook my head. If I ever had to be criticized for my work they would only see what I haven’t achieved, so I must try harder. Yeap he told me so, not to misunderstand it but take it under advise. I have to choose my priorities he said, make no mistake that no one will save my ass if and when I miss something. Of course he recognized that I’m working that ass off for the last 7 years, but still my friends hearing him say that I need to try more made me think “I’m working on an official public holiday for you, you could have waited until tomorrow”.
But then again, I thought to my self, men are just all the same, they need us to be perfect and this is not an exception, at least I’m getting paid, right?