The Glamorous blogger

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Do we really have to be glamorous to be the greatest bloggers out there?  Do we really need to have drama in our lives in order to attract readers?  I get that feeling time to time.  I am a big fan of blogging and I’m a frequent blog visitor and love sharing.

But there are times my life is so boring, like most of the people I know, it makes me puke reading others clubbing experiences, sex partners and restaurant reviews.  How does everybody afford all that stuff?

I’m gonna tell you what I did today.  I had family over, watched two movies starring Jenifer Aniston, cause I’m a huge fan “Just go with it” and “Friends with money“.  I had sex with my boyfriend and then started wondering…

Hey, I don’t have money, I don’t have the great job ever but I do have many friends with money and I don’t give a shit about their situation.  .The way things are going I wouldn’t mind being a maid.

Where am I getting with this?  Simple things that people are bored to read about these days.  Stupid, everyday stuff that we do and complete our lives.  Thoughts that come out from a movie or a conversation.  When all of this stopped being the main topic of our blogs and sex, relationships, clubs and other people’s lives came and took place?

Maybe I am the glamorous blogger, because in years I finally understood what blogging means to my life.

So today I had family over, we ate and had coffee, I watched two movies of Jennifer Aniston, I’m a huge fan o Jennifer, she is so lovely and after everything I had sex with my boyfriend, I just went into the office naked and took him by surprise.  I opened my laptop and published a post about my fabulous life.

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Readers vs comments. Why are we blogging

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So, I decided to take part to this, postaday2011 kind of thing.  And everyday I log in to my WordPress account, there’s a dashboard reminding me of my stats.  What’s wrong with that?

I see many visitors but less comments or no comments at all.  Should I be bothered?  I mean, there are times when I read something and I don’t leave a comment, sometimes because I have nothing to say, sometimes because I didn’t like what I read.  But most of the times, I do leave a comment.  Why is that?

I support the writer this way.  This is how I feel about it.  Somebody has given time and thought to his writing, somebody has something to share with me, I feel the only thing I can do for his effort is to show him, I was there, I read your stuff and this is what I think. 

But then comes another question.  Does that mean we are blogging for stats? Should we really care how many people are reading our posts or how many comments we have?  

1. In 2005 I started my personal blog.  It was more like a diary than news and entertainment site.  In was much more innocent.  So in 2006 I didn’t even mind about readers and comments.  I just did what I had to do to express myself.  In 2008 blogging had become a huge deal.  I had readers, comments, I was a frequent blog visitor and everything that goes with the package.  In 2011 most blogs are about sex, entertainment, relationships and advertising.  So I’m kind of lost.  Should I care about the stats?  Exactly for who am I writing for?  Me or them?  Do I have to sell something?  Isn’t selling my thoughts enough?  When did it stop being enough, actually? 
2. On the other hand, we need to communicate.  Even that personal blog of yours has the need of attention.  We all crave attention, from the moment we hit the publish button.  We all searched on how we can become super bloggers and there are a lot of interesting posts on that matter. But here comes another question again…Why does it matter?  

Anyway, I came to this conclusion, others write for fame, others for money, some because they love writing and some because they just want to share something.  It’s like watching movies, some of them are plain fiction, others are true stories, either way we love watching them. I don’t think I’m going to stop blogging ever and I blog because I love writing, money and fame are welcome and there are many things I wish to share with you all. 

Are you a stats-holic?

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I know what you wrote last night.

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After 5 years of blogging I should have known better…it’s maths, at some point you’ll be exposed.

What if someone you know, reads your posts? What if someone you know, reads your posts and says nothing to you?  That’s spying.

I’ve thought that a lot, and according to circumstances I’ve changed a couple of blogs in the past.  Not this year darling, I won’t.

I’m a five-year old blogger who deleted two blogs because someone I knew read my posts and said nothing.  If I wanted anyone I knew to know who I am, I would show my face (and I’m pretty good-looking), I would expose my name, I would invite them to read me.  I remember blogging as an online private-personal diary, a way to get things out of our system and write about what bothers us, share our every-day life experiences and some times, yes, we would bitch about people who, one way or another, hurt us.  I have the right to keep my anonymity.

I have the feeling that people who read you and they think they know you, but say nothing to you, spy on you.  They say nothing because they’re waiting for the moment.  The moment you write something for somebody they know, something that you keep a secret, something to hold you on that.

So because I hate this kind of attitude, if anyone feels he knows me, I would appreciate the balls to confront me.  Yah man, I’m LadyStou, your friend, who has a problem with her boyfriend, who you know, but wishes not to discuss it with you.  Yes, I’m LadyStou, the blogger who studies history but doesn’t want you to know.  Yes, I’m LadyStou, who has personality issues, an internetholic, a bloggerholic.

By the way, except from internetholic and bloggerholic, none of the above is true.

Anonymous vs conventional blogging.  What do you thing? Check out the related articles, some even tricked me in attaching a face to my writing, which would be lovely, but I’m not there yet.

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The angry employee

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Although the crisis, the financial that is, people are starting to quite their jobs over here.  The psychological damage this job provides you is much more harmful than being unemployed.  Yesterday we had a very difficult day, we had a strong argument with my boss and what I heard, oh the things that I’ve heard.  We are ungrateful, we are selfish, we should be happy and grateful for having this job that is well-paid and blah blah. A colleague of mine just informed me of quitting and she was much more well-paid than us.  One year ago another one left us because she couldn’t simply take any more.  This is bullshit.

I’m not a number, I’m a person, if you treat me as a number I will tread you as well.  Because what you pay is what you get.

I’m becoming the blogger who always writes angry posts about her job.  It’s getting sick.  I wish something would change as soon as possible before they drive us crazy.

The good and the bad blogger

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The good blogger writes at least two or three times a week. A good blogger updates and monitors. A good blogger reads other blogs and never disappoints his/her readers. Well I’m not that kind of blogger. I’m the bad kind of blogger. My last post was in October 2010 and like a bad blogger I returned 4 months later just when I had something to say.

But wait…that’s what blogging was all about.  So are there really bad bloggers and good ones? I need to feel good about my “blogging-self” right now.

To embrace my new, blogging year I’ll probably have to continue from where I left my previous one.  My two and only, old posts.

Well, I’m still not perfect but I’m in a whole different level and I still need changes cause I never started with my diet…